Are Soul Mates Real?
by Livnam Kaur
On the spiritual path it is very common to hear, repeat, and teach the idea of Oneness. So you've most likely heard it before. The Oneness Principle states that we are all One with our Creator. It means that our true reality is One with Him and therefore, each other. This is not a new principle by any means and it is taught in many Metaphysical circles. But then, within those same circles, you will hear about "soul mates" and "twin flames." Can we really be all One and yet have "special" souls meant only for us or, as the twin flame theory proposes, another half of our own soul out there somewhere? Are we incomplete without this connection?
To answer this, let's take another look at Oneness. A Course In Miracles teaches us that we believe we are separated from God and in that separation we made this world of the ego. The ego, by the way, is everything you think is good and everything you think is bad about yourself. It is your human nature. And it is the part of you that thinks you are separate from God. But the Course says that separation is a fallacy.
And if we are all One, there could be no "other half" of your soul for your soul is all there is because it is of God. And God does not create anything that is not perfect, whole, and complete. The idea of having karma with certain people is not unfounded, but according to A Course In Miracles, past lives are just as much of an illusion of time and space as our current life believing we are separate from God. It's a mind twister, I know. But your Higher Mind, that part of you that knows its Oneness, gets it.
The Separation Fallacy, that belief that we are not One with God, keeps us looking and searching to connect. In Kundalini Yoga we call it, "longing to belong." We all long to belong to God and guess how that longing shows up strongest in our life? You guessed it, romantic relationships! Romantic relationships are the greatest metaphor for our relationship with God. For we long to merge with another, to experience the unexplainable feelings that erupt within our hearts and minds when we are in love. We long to feel connected and supported and at one with someone. In other words, we long to be One because we think we are separate. So when we have a romantic relationship, that relationship forms a kind of "soul" in that when two people unite, they merge energies and make a new energy together. That merger is divine, it is beautiful, it is love. But it doesn't mean that your soul would be incomplete without it
How tragic would it be if that were true? How could it ever be that if someone is without a romantic relationship they are somehow less than? It makes no spiritual sense. Remember, God does not create anything that is not perfect, whole, and complete. So no matter if you are in a relationship or not, you are perfect, whole, and complete.
All relationships can be Holy Relationships, helping us to see our own grace and in return show our partner his/her grace as well. We all seek partners in life and all strive to be happy in our relationships whether they are friendly or romantic. And we should have happy, loving relationships. Yet it is in Oneness that we will truly find ourselves and each other. Ideas like "one soul mate" and twin flames keep us separated. It's subtle, but it's there. They keep us thinking that there is only one for us when in fact, there is only One for us.
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