Are Your Desires Really Your Desires?
by Andrea Schulman
I’m starting to see that many of our desires are not our true desires at all, rather they are simply our limiting beliefs disguised as our desires.
I will give two examples of this hypothesis, and you can come to your own conclusions.
Here’s the first: Do we really want money because we value money and because money makes us happy? Or do we want money because we want to have unlimited abundance, and access the ability to do, be or have anything we want?
I believe that the true desire is not money at all, but rather it is REALLY a desire to know that we are infinitely abundant, and capable of having everything we want. It is a desire to know our own unlimited power to create.
Money is actually irrelevant to this higher desire, as it is simply a condition we have placed on ourselves that often limits the way we will accept our abundance. It is also a condition we use to measure (and therefore limit) our own abundance.
In other words, when we reach for money (rather than the knowledge that we are infinitely abundant), our value as creators becomes contingent on the money in our bank accounts. Therefore, we measure our worthiness of abundance by the number of dollars we have. Regardless of how high this number may be, it is always limited.
What we really want is to feel worthy of our own unlimited abundance, but in order to feel worthy of our abundance, we cannot be concerned about “proving” our worthiness through the number of dollars in our accounts. We have to become more cognizant of all of the many ways we are supported in doing, being and having what we want.
In other words, money is just one way that we are abundant. It is not the end-all-be-all to abundance!
There are infinite resources out there that help us achieve the things we wish to achieve in life. The planet, our ecosystem, the help of others, the ideas we receive through the internet, and our intuition are just a handful of examples of abundant resources that assist us in creating the things we wish to create.
This isn’t to say that you can’t attract money, but if you are interested in attracting money and it isn’t coming, it might be worth exploring your beliefs about why you want it. If you only feel worthy of your abundance when the dollars are flowing, it is likely that your desire for money is simply a sign that you are reaching for the limitation of your abundance, rather than your expansion of it.
Reach for the higher desire and uncover your knowledge of your infinite abundance. The money will flow more easily, and it won’t carry the weight of limitation it once did. Even better, you will find yourself receptive to more and more forms of abundance.
Here’s the second example: Why do we want social approval? Why do we value things like “likes” on our Facebook and Instagram posts? Why do so many people crave fame?
Is it because these desires are truly reflective of what we really want? Does fame and social approval truly make our lives better? Does is really give us our true desire?
In my opinion, when someone reaches for social approval, what they are REALLY craving is unconditional love. We want others to prove their love for us so that we can prove to ourselves we are worthy of being loved.
Unfortunately, when we reach for social approval, we deny ourselves of this higher desire to be unconditionally loved. Reaching for social approval means that we are reaching for conditional love, not unconditional love.
Reaching for outside validation from others is simply another way of screaming out into the universe “I am not worthy of love as I am! I am only worthy of love when others approve of me!” Then, instead of getting our true desire (unconditional love) we only reinforce our limiting belief (that we must gain other people’s approval in order to be loved).
This pursuit ultimately makes us feel unworthy, drawing us further and further away from our true desire to be loved.
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This is just something to consider. Sometimes the things we say we want, really aren’t what we want at all. Sometimes the things we are reaching for are actually pulling us further and further from our true desires.
So, if there is something you have been reaching for, and it hasn’t been coming, and it’s been making you feel bad that it hasn’t been coming, I say there MUST be a limiting belief in the equation. It is quite possible that the dream you are reaching for isn’t truly your desire, but rather it is your belief in limitation disguised as your desire.
As I mentioned earlier, when we reach for money instead of our true desire (knowledge of our unlimited abundance) we reach for signs that teach us our abundance is limited. When we reach for social approval instead of our true desire (unconditional love), we reach for signs that prove to us that we are only loved conditionally.
If there is something you want that isn’t coming to you, do yourself a favor and dig a little deeper. What do you REALLY want, and is this thing you are asking for a true reflection of this inner desire?
Truth be told, you can attract anything you want into your life with the Law of Attraction, but it is my belief that to truly experience the expansion we crave, to truly feel loved, worthy and abundant, we have to be willing to let go of the limitations that tell us we can only have these things conditionally.
This doesn’t mean you have to be poor and it doesn’t mean you have to be a loner. In fact, my point is quite the opposite. It just means in reaching beyond the dollars and beyond the “likes” you open yourself up to a much greater flow of abundance and love than you can ever achieve as long as you are chasing after limited forms of these true desires.
Reach for abundance in all forms, and let the universe show you that money is just the beginning. Reach for unconditional love, and come to learn that you can feel loved exactly as you are.
Reach a little farther, and find your true desire. I believe this is the true path to our happiness, and the true path beyond the limitations that hold us back from the things we REALLY want.
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