10 Reasons to Stop People Pleasing
by Tanaaz Chubb
Are you a people pleaser?
Growing up I made my life mission to please those around me. I would go out of my way to please others in the hopes that I would be liked and accepted.
Being able to please others also gave me feelings of self-esteem and self-worth, however this was all short lived.
Like most people pleasers out there, eventually the continual cycle of people pleasing left me feeling drained, taken advantage of and lost on the inside.
Energetically, people pleasing sways you from your true authentic self and your true authentic path, which can make you feel out of alignment and confused about your purpose.
After I had my awakening, I definitely noticed my desire to people please reduce. Interestingly enough, I also had a few “friends” in my life melt away when I stopped people pleasing.
People pleasing can be detrimental to your soul and moves you off course and away from who you truly are. People pleasing also never really satisfies you, as it is nearly impossible to please others 100% of the time.
True self “pleasing” comes from within, and no one can ever really please you except for yourself.
Knowing that now, I wanted to share with all the people pleasers out there how to stop people pleasing and reconnect with your true authentic self.
Why Do You People Please?
For me, people pleasing was about being liked. I really wanted to be liked by those around me as I didn’t really feel loveable or worthy.
Most people who people please are also healers and feel a natural inclination to help and assist others.
While it is fine to assist and be of service to others, when you start to suffer, when you start to feel drained or compromised, that is when you need to pull back.
Take a moment to get in touch with your self, why do you people please? Is it to feel loved? Is it to feel worthy? Is it to avoid conflict?
Why Should You Stop People Pleasing?
There are many reasons to stop people pleasing, but here are my top 10-
Setting an intention to stop people pleasing can sometimes be enough to set things in motion. Being aware of your people pleasing attitudes can also help you to set organic boundaries.
Here is a mantra from my book, Messages for the Soul that may help-
“Today I give myself permission to put my own needs first. Today I will honor all that I am and respect my own boundaries.”
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Over time you will also start attracting people into your life who are not going to take advantage of your generous nature and that will respect your boundaries and space, however you have to do that for yourself first before you can expect others to!
So take a pledge today-
“I (insert name here) am going to make a conscious effort to stop pleasing others and instead put my own needs and desires first because I am a worthy, wonderful and amazing being who is perfectly enough.” Please comment below!
Tanaaz is the co-creator and owner of the website Forever Conscious. Tanaaz started Forever Conscious as a way to share her thoughts and ideas about the spirit world, astrology and mindfulness. She also offers intuitive readings through the site to help people connect with their path and purpose. Tanaaz has also written two books- Becoming Forever Conscious and Messages for the Soul and has released an e-course, How to Connect With Your Spirit Guides. Articles were shared on Awakening People with Tanaaz explicit written permission.
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