5 Possible Reasons Why You’re Still Single
by Andrea Schulman
Check out the questions below to see if you can pinpoint any possible reasons why you’re still single.
1. Do you speak negatively about relationships and love? This is, by far, one of the MOST common reasons why people have difficulty manifesting relationships, and it is also one of the easiest to correct!
Lots of times, people who are struggling to attract love have negative mantras that they practice regularly regarding love and relationships. For example, “a good man is hard to find,” “all of the good ones are taken,” “you can’t trust men/women,” “I always get my heart broken,” or “I have a fear of commitment.” When we point out in conversation what is going wrong in our love life, we only draw more of these unwanted things into our existence.
Negative conversation can cause someone to line up with a string of cheaters, deadbeats, abusers or heartbreakers. It happens all the time!
So, if you find that you often state negative beliefs about relationships and love, make a pact with yourself to stop saying these things as much as possible. This will help lessen a lot of the negative resistance you’ve been offering on the subject.
Related article: “14 Things to Stop Saying Now if you Want to Find Love“
2. Are you trying too hard? I’ve noticed that a lot of people who want to manifest love with the Law of Attraction often work very hard at it.
For example, you might find that someone like this has a very regimented “love attraction” routine, perhaps doing a daily visualization, a daily love meditation and regularly practices relationship affirmations. They might also do a lot of other things, like going on lots of dates and reading lots of relationship books.
However, although you know these strategies can be useful tools, they just don’t seem to work. Why is this?
Well, when we take drastic measures to attract a partner, the subconscious message we send out into the universe is “I think this process is going to be hard!” “I have to force this issue!” or, even worse, “When is he/she going to show up?!”
Because the universe responds to what we’re putting out there, subconscious messages like these will keep anything from showing up.
See, the process of attracting anything is all about being in the flow and allowing what you want to come without straining. Like a singer who gets lost in the song and delivers a beautiful performance, finding love is all about getting lost in the energy of the moment.
Think about it. We wouldn’t expect that a song would be that good if the singer was stressed out and efforting her way through it, would we? Well, the same thing applies in all areas of life. We have to let the energy carry us if we want to find out way into the magic.
So, if you’ve been trying too hard, take a break! Cut out any activities you’ve been doing to find love that make you feel stressed out or tired. Instead, spend more time having fun and enjoying the present moment.
3. Do you cling to romantic interests? This one can go hand in hand with the “trying too hard” reason above, but it’s a specific way of trying too hard that is very, very common and it’s definitely worth mentioning.
Clinginess occurs when someone calls a romantic interest too frequently, texts all the time, or develops any kind of obviously unbalanced bond with the other person.
The problem with clinginess is that the message we send into the universe with this behavior is “I’m afraid you’re going to leave me!” and this has terrible ramifications on a potential relationship.
When we expect that a relationship will endure, we have a much more balanced give-and-take attitude about things.
We don’t think our partner will leave us, so we are ok if it takes him or her a few hours to get back with us. We’re not worried about when he or she will call, or when we will see him or her next.
Then, because we are projecting security about the relationship in this fashion, the relationship is much more likely to endure.
So, if there’s someone you like on the horizon, be sure to play it cool. Sure, you can still call or text, but ask yourself “would I be texting/calling this much if I was in a loving and lasting relationship with this person?” Let the answer to that question be your guide on how you treat the other person.
Remember, in order to attract a relationship that lasts you’ve got to send the message that you expect the relationship to last, and one of the ways you do this is through your behavior choices.
4. Do you pick partners based on what other people think? Love is a funny thing. It can come from a lot of unexpected places!?
Sometimes, people struggle to find love because they allow other people’s opinions to interfere with their personal intuition and desires. Unfortunately, many people shut love out of their lives because they’re more concerned about what other people think than they are with what they really want!
So, if you are wanting love, and you find yourself drawn to a particular person who fits your bill, but not the bill of your friends or relatives, keep an open mind! Don’t shut out someone who makes your heart sing just because they’re the wrong age, race, religion, height or other characteristic that is important to someone other than you.
No one else’s opinion matters in your life. If you like someone, that’s all that matters. Trust your own emotions and feelings and they will show you the way to love!
5. Are you unkind to yourself? With the Law of Attraction, we get what we project out into the universe. When we love ourselves, other people love us too! Unfortunately, however, when we pick apart our flaws and treat ourselves unkindly, so do others.
Loving yourself is probably the very most important thing to consider if want to know why you’re still single. Treat yourself with the same kindness and respect you want to receive from a partner. This will make you a magnet for the kind of love you really want from another person.
So if you’re still single, what do you think? Do any of these reasons resonate with you? If so, that’s a really good thing, because when we know what we are doing that pushes love away from us, we can choose an alternative course of action!
Remember, love is always just a step away. People fall in love all the time in the most random places and ways, and if it can happen for so many people-it can absolutely happen for you too!
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