If forgetting means that we are not being honest about our feelings or that we're letting others take advantage of us then it is not healthy. Sometimes the best thing we can do is remember. So how do we remember and remain compassionate while keeping healthy boundaries? By understanding that compassion must first be placed upon ourselves. If we are continually putting compassion out but forgetting to respect ourselves we are asking for trouble.
People need to know the effects of their causes. Forgetting in that case would take away the opportunity for everyone to choose another way of being.
This helps us take responsibility for our lives and release the need to blame others for our troubles. The ego wants us to keep identifying with it by keeping others “wrong” and us “right" and by telling us that if we remember we are being judgmental. You can see how keeping correct compassion and boundaries becomes a challenge! Definitely let go of the past and do not dwell on pain. Just remember to not discount yourself or the past may begin to repeat.
Of course there are some who so completely lie to themselves that they will never see the truth no matter what you do or say. Forgive them anyway and remember to never find yourself in that situation again.
If you do not love yourself enough to be honest with yourself you will never be honest with anyone else. Remembering is not the same as holding grudges. Forgive but remember to keep up with honesty.
Stay true to yourself and do not let others emotionally bully you into false “compassion.” True compassion is when we see with love the truth of the other person and ourselves, beyond the physical, beyond personalities, beyond judgment. With that truth we then see clearly what boundaries and behavior we need in our life. It does not mean we are holding judgment. Seeing with love means you are seeing clearly and can state the truth. If someone is hurting you that is the truth. Forgive and remember to love yourself enough to make any changes you need.
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Livnam Kaur is a spiritual intuitive, healer, and writer working to express divine guidance through The Counsel of Light which can help us hear God's Word within us. She facilitates a weekly study group for A Course In Miracles, teaches Intuitive Development, Kundalini Yoga and Meditation, and offers Personal Sessions and Coaching. ACIM, IKTYA, IET®MI, Reiki MT, AWP, ATP® Articles written by Livnam Kaur were published on Awakening People with the author's explicit written permission.