Don’t Like What You See? Look a Little Closer…
The Mirror of the Empath
by Diane Kathrine
We have all experienced it, being around someone who has either taken an instant dislike to us, or a bizarre resentment suddenly appears in those we have known for some time. We may have no idea why the other feels this way, as we certainly have not given them reason to have such repugnance towards us. No matter whether they try to hide their feelings or not, we can still sense their loathing and it does not feel good!
This is due to having a strong sense of intuition and the ability to unconsciously read others. However, what can be baffling to the Empath is why some people act in such an animostic way towards us, when we know ourself to be a likeable and trustworthy person. Often we are not given a reason when someone suddenly changes towards us, becoming cold and uncaring almost overnight. It can just leave us scratching our head.
Through observations and contemplations I have come to discover there are three main reasons why people either cool off or take an instant dislike towards the Empath and here they are:
One of the main reasons others can have an aversion to the Empath is because we reflect back to them the truth of who they are. It is so common for people to act in an inauthentic way to hide who they truly are, that many do not question their own motives or try and change their behavior. The reason most people hide a side of themselves is because they don’t like certain aspects of their personality. It may be that they are insecure, they may feel deep shame about themselves, or they may hide a trait of their personality because they do not believe it will be liked or accepted by others. On the darker side of the spectrum, some may hide aspects of their personality in order to manipulate others. However, for the majority of people who put on an act, they do so simply to fit in. The fear of being judged or disliked, for what they don’t like about themselves, makes some wear a mask when out in public. Even those of a Sensitive nature will put on a face when out in the world (partly because we know we would look like complete fruitcakes if we showed how we really felt inside). There are some, however, who never remove their mask and go through life with a false identity.
When one comes face to face with an Empath there is no hiding from these concealed traits; the mask comes off and they are displayed in full view. The traits one has worked so hard to hide or deny are now being waved in your face and can cause a torrent of ill feelings to surface, which will often be directed towards the Empath.
Because being with an Empath can bring up intense feelings in others, it can be the root cause of a strong loathing. However, what those who encounter this won’t realize is that the intense dislike they have towards the Empath is simply a reflection of their hidden side. The truth of who they are and aspects of their personality, they hide because they don’t want to admit to having, are revealed. Anything hidden becomes seen within the ‘Mirror of the Empath’.
The Mirror Effect
Because an Empath picks up on other people’s emotions, hidden behaviors and true personality traits, we can take them on and thus project them back out to their rightful owner. We can wear other people’s truth like the mask they hide behind; even if we are consciously unaware that we are doing it. In the days before we become aware that we are an Empath, we may mistake these insecurities as our own and have no idea that what we feel, we can then project and reflect back.
If someone has traits that they particularly don’t like about themselves, they are reminded of them when in an Empath’s presence. This is the reason an instant dislike for the Empath is formed or why resentment can build towards them over time. Anything hidden within such as: an insecurity, suppressed shame, guilt or anger will only get bigger the longer it is left buried. Because we can make others feel their own truth, a sudden dislike for us may develop as the suppressed feeling, within the other, builds. Jealousy, anger, hatred, feeling unworthy, low self-esteem and self-grandeur are just some examples of what we might reflect back to others.
If this has been your experience, where someone suddenly starts being off with you, it could very well be that you are reflecting back to them the truth they deny. Or there could be another reason…
Our Vibration is Too Fast…
Just like an Empath’s need not to be around people who spew negativity, there are some people who cannot stand to be around those who vibrate a clean and shiny energy. When you start to work on yourself and make any positive changes to your mind, body or spirit you become cleaner and purer and this can be cause for a rejection from those who are addicted to low-level vibrations.
I have noticed that when I have been in an emotionally low place, in the past, there are some who seem to prefer me that way. Yet when I made big changes to myself and my life, and put myself in a high vibrating space, I could tell that some friends didn’t like it. It felt like they wanted to bring me back down. They did this in numerous ways, such as snide comments, ridiculing my discoveries or new ways of being. The sad thing is, they were often unaware they were doing it.
Vibrating in a higher space can make us naturally repel even those we love. People sense change, whether it is visually apparent or not, and they can feel when another has changed or stepped up their frequency. Not everyone is ready to raise their vibration. Some may still have lessons to learn at the level they are at and are not ready to move forward with us. Because they are not ready to move onwards and upwards they may try to draw us back down. Also, if we don’t feel like a fit to them anymore, it may be the cause of hostility towards us and another reason why they are repelled.
Our Stillness is Wrongly Interpreted
To those of an insecure nature, our quiet, and sometimes distant, ways are often seen as a form of disrespect or a snub. Because we may, at times, appear aloof, some may class this as snobby or superior behavior. Wrongly assuming we believe we are in some way above them. Normally, when an Empath acts in an aloof or distant way, it is because they are on overload. Having taken on too much stimuli from their surroundings and in serious need of recharging, the Empath wants nothing more than to be invisible to others.
When we are on overload and heading towards a fatigue meltdown, the last thing we can deal with is someone offloading their troubles on us, like so many like to do. Even polite conversation is too much for us to bear. This may be interpreted as a rejection or an insult to those we are quiet towards. The last thing we would want anyone to suppose is that we are snobby or believe we are superior to anyone…we really aren’t.
Because others don’t feel what an Empath feels, it is very difficult for them to understand why we act the way we do. Sadly, the more insecure someone is, the more they will be offended by our quiet ways. And if they see us as blowing hot and cold or being disrespectful towards them, they may reject us as a way to hurt or have a dig at us. This may be experienced as a shunning or cooling off towards us or even in nasty behavior aimed our way.
So there you have it; a few reasons why others shun or dislike the Empath. If another seems to have an aversion for you, for no good reason, remember not to take it personally. It is often just the Mirror of the Empath at work, reflecting back their truth.
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About the Author
Diane at Just Be is an Empath and has spent the past 15 to 20 years ('since waking up') researching and learning ways to make life as an Empath easier. She has discovered many ways for the Empath to stay healthy and in balance and shares her findings on her blog.Articles written by Just Be were published on Awakening People with the author's explicit written permission.