If it’s any consolation, Cancers themselves ask similar questions. Mainly, who am I, and why do I feel this way. While the other elements we have touched upon are more separate in their nature, water is connective and highly relational on a visceral level.
Water takes on the shape of it’s container touching each surface, each nook and cranny. There is an experience of complete emergence when dealing with this sign as well as the other water signs.
Part of the time you can depend on them, they are there for you, the salt of the earth and then they disappear into the great mystery that is the emotional sea they hold within them.
Cancers wax and wane just like the tide. Yet they are as regular as the tides, so they are never gone for long, you can depend on them to come back to you, refreshed and ready to fix you that warm cup of cocoa and their world famous shortbread cookies.
Cancers are sensitive with a capital S. They don’t always understand their own feelings, and because they are empathetic they also take on the feelings of others. That’s a lot of feelings to muddle through. So of course they would need that time to go off by themselves and figure it out. Once they do however, they come back out of their shell to feel another day.
And what about this ‘clingy’ label that floats around when people speak of Cancers? Well first of all, Cancer’s prefer the word tenacity to clinginess. This tenacity is also part of needing to hold on to something long enough to digest it’s meaning. Like a crab at the ocean’s edge, once they have a piece of food (symbolic of something or someone they love) they would rather loose an arm than let go. It’s survival after all.
The best way to assure that you don’t get pinched in their claws is not to give them any reason to doubt your feelings. They love truly and deeply and would lose an arm to protect you. So don’t get involved if you’re looking for something superficial, because in the world of the Crab, there is no such thing.
So taking into consideration their nature Cancers can be the most loving of signs. Let them have their alone time.
Hand them a hanky when they have to dry their tears, which will be often. And don’t assume the tears are about you, they’ll let you know eventually. More than likely if you are kind to them it isn’t you. And hug them…a lot. They need physical contact to know they are loved. Oh and don’t confront them face to face, Cancers hate that more than anything. They will sidle away from you so fast you’ll think they were abducted by aliens.
They may seem like a lot of effort at times, but rest assured that Cancers are precious and as true blue as they come.
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